Coaching For Men Only
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There are certain experiences in life only men understand.
The Changing Role Of MenOur roles in the world are constantly changing and we must adjust and grow accordingly. Fatherhood, marriage, divorce, careers and sexuality are all topics that may not be the same as what they were when we were brought up by our own fathers or father figures, if we were lucky enough to have one.
Many men are at least a little unclear, possibly even at odds with their current status. And many men are trying to decide whether they should be apologetic, allied, or offended. |
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Middle Life Issues
Although both women and men are equally subject to what some psychologists refer to as mid-life crisis, the reasons and experiences are different for the genders.
Some men experience a true psychological crisis but most simply go through a transition as they reach a certain age and suddenly realize that life truly is passing them by and they are suddenly being treated differently by society in their 40’s and 50’s than they were in their 20’s and 30’s and that the world (and their bodies) are not as forgiving as they once were.
Some men experience a true psychological crisis but most simply go through a transition as they reach a certain age and suddenly realize that life truly is passing them by and they are suddenly being treated differently by society in their 40’s and 50’s than they were in their 20’s and 30’s and that the world (and their bodies) are not as forgiving as they once were.
Common Experiences Of men In a Very Normal Midlife
- Suddenly becoming much more aware of the changes that come with aging, including illness and changing levels of fitness
- Becoming uncomfortable with the idea that they are no longer the “up and coming rising star” and instead have become the “seasoned veteran” (and hopefully not just the old and tired)
- A higher self consciousness of the physical self and increased insecurity around personal attractiveness
- Increased stress regarding deadlines for attaining goals they have set for themselves
- Recognition of their own mortality and loss of the “bulletproof” mentality
- Lowered sexual desire and all the psychological baggage that goes with that
- Reconsideration of long term decisions made earlier in life including choice of career or spouse
- Recognition of all the forces and restrictions that hold them back i.e. realizing the truth that you CAN’T have it all and life IS short
Common Responses and External Manifestations Include:
- Less interest in climbing the corporate ladder
- Increased interest in self-satisfaction, rather than external approval
- Increased focus on physical health, both for fitness and attractiveness
- Lowered tolerance for people and situations that don't align with their new thought processes
- A move towards change of any type, including divorce, career change or just chucking it all and moving to a beach somewhere
Nice Guy Syndrome
Additionally, due to historical changes over the last 150 years, the male psyche has become subject to a specific type of co-dependence referred to by psychologist Dr. Robert Glover as “Nice Guy Syndrome” and developed during the formative part of our lives when we were still trying to define what being a man means.
So, What Do Men Want?
- They want more from themselves and from life than they’ve achieved.
- They want to benefit from thought-provoking conversations that will help them to maximize their personal and professional potential.
- They want to accomplish their goals more effectively.
A man hiring a coach wants to work with someone who:
- Listens deeply to him
- Helps him develop a clear action plan for change
- Asks him to consider catalytic, transformative questions
- Challenges his assumptions
- Holds him accountable
- Celebrates his accomplishments
Who Hires A Coach?
- Men moving from college life into their first job.
- Men experiencing a major life transition such as marriage, fatherhood or divorce.
- Men making a mid-career transition, or taking up an entirely new career.
- Men re-examining their marriage
- Men re-examining their place in the world
- Men entering retirement.
Why Men's Coaching And Not Just Coaching?
Professional statement: Coaching and Counseling are 2 different animals. Coaches ARE NOT licensed mental health professionals and coaching is never a substitute for mental health treatment or therapy, ever.
That being said, men have their own unique challenges.
That being said, men have their own unique challenges.
- 3 in 10 men struggle with some kind of mental or emotional health challenge.
- Only 1 in 4 will talk to a counselor or therapist about their problem.
- Men are more likely to become addicted to alcohol or drugs than women.
- Men are less likely to initiate treatment for addiction
- Men are roughly 3½ times more likely to commit suicide than women.
- Men are twice as likely to experience intense depression, remorse, and high levels of anxiety during transition from youth to middle age.
Counseling plays a vital role in helping a man repair or recover from mental or emotional health challenges and resolve mental health issues. Men can help themselves by talking with a medically licensed counselor. Talking with a counselor is not a sign that a man is weak. It’s a bold declaration that he’s going to do whatever it takes to get stronger.
Coaching plays an important role in helping a man discover, develop, and use his strengths and is built on the understanding that every man has strengths. Strengths waiting to be maximized.
One to One Coaching can be a gateway to open the door to self awareness and an acknowledgement that we, as men, have emotions, that there are others going through the same experience. that we don’t have to do life alone or individually. Coaching is not therapy. Coaching is forming a relationship, man to man where we can open discussions and look for solutions for common issues that we all experience AS MEN.
A man doesn’t need to wait until he’s mentally or emotionally healthy to hire a coach. Every man has strengths and abilities he can leverage to show up in an effective way and create powerful benefits for himself, his family, his company, his world.
Coaching plays an important role in helping a man discover, develop, and use his strengths and is built on the understanding that every man has strengths. Strengths waiting to be maximized.
One to One Coaching can be a gateway to open the door to self awareness and an acknowledgement that we, as men, have emotions, that there are others going through the same experience. that we don’t have to do life alone or individually. Coaching is not therapy. Coaching is forming a relationship, man to man where we can open discussions and look for solutions for common issues that we all experience AS MEN.
A man doesn’t need to wait until he’s mentally or emotionally healthy to hire a coach. Every man has strengths and abilities he can leverage to show up in an effective way and create powerful benefits for himself, his family, his company, his world.
Russell Church, Founder
CRC Life Coach and XY Coaching founder Russell Church is a leading force in Men's Issues and in helping men discover what genuine masculinity means in terms of authenticity and integration. It is sometimes difficult to determine where we stand in today's world and what we, as men, can do to embrace our masculinity and commitment to society while remaining flexible in this ever evolving sociological landscape. Russell Church is on the front line every day listening, learning and helping other men reach their highest potential.
As an ICF certified coach, a long time student of psychologists and authors such as Robert Glover and Robert Bly, Russell Church has been leading Men’s groups since 2012 and has led multiple rounds of men’s groups, many based on Robert Glover’s work and the No More Mr. Nice Guy model, as well as Robert Bly and other leaders in the Mens community.
CRC Life Coach and XY Coaching founder Russell Church is a leading force in Men's Issues and in helping men discover what genuine masculinity means in terms of authenticity and integration. It is sometimes difficult to determine where we stand in today's world and what we, as men, can do to embrace our masculinity and commitment to society while remaining flexible in this ever evolving sociological landscape. Russell Church is on the front line every day listening, learning and helping other men reach their highest potential.
As an ICF certified coach, a long time student of psychologists and authors such as Robert Glover and Robert Bly, Russell Church has been leading Men’s groups since 2012 and has led multiple rounds of men’s groups, many based on Robert Glover’s work and the No More Mr. Nice Guy model, as well as Robert Bly and other leaders in the Mens community.
Jesse Trout, Sr Coach
Jesse Trout is a graduate of Austin Peay State University in Clarksville, TN. He was introduced to the power of coaching through his daily work as a student success coach within the realm of higher education. He believes in the usefulness of coaching as a catalyst for growth and life change..
Jesse is a Certified Holistic Coach through the Radiant Coaches Academy, a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach through the Co-Active Training Institute. and a Professional Certified Coach through the International Coach Federation.
Jesse Trout is a graduate of Austin Peay State University in Clarksville, TN. He was introduced to the power of coaching through his daily work as a student success coach within the realm of higher education. He believes in the usefulness of coaching as a catalyst for growth and life change..
Jesse is a Certified Holistic Coach through the Radiant Coaches Academy, a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach through the Co-Active Training Institute. and a Professional Certified Coach through the International Coach Federation.
Life Transitions• Career Changes
• Retirement • Divorce • Empty Nest |
Fitness• Weight Loss
• Healthy Eating • Goal Setting • Accountability |
Positive Habits• Positive Self Talk
• Creating Good Habits • Mindfulness and Meditation • Overcoming Anxiousness |
Career• Career Satisfaction
• Mid-Life Transitions • Newly Graduated • Preparing for Retirement |